Common Mistakes To Avoid During Divorce Mediation
Going through a divorce is never easy and for the sake of you, your spouse, and your children, you want to end the process as quickly as possible and with the least amount of drama. For many divorcing couples, mediation is a great tool that allows the couple to come to an agreement with the least amount of contention. If you are considering mediation, here are a few common mistakes you should avoid.
Not Properly Preparing for Mediation
Mediation involves using a nonbiased, independent mediator to help resolve any disputes you and your spouse cannot resolve on your own. Your attorney will go through mediation with you and can help you prepare for the process. For example, you will write down a list of points where you can compromise, and areas you are more firm on.
Typically, you will be asked to bring a variety of documents to your first mediation session. This could include a copy of your prenuptial agreement (if applicable), pay stubs, the past year's tax information, and past court filings and rulings about your divorce. Preparing for mediation beforehand will help ensure you get your point across as quickly as possible. Remember, you will have to pay for mediation, and the faster you are able to resolve any issue, the less you will pay.
Not Listening to Your Mediator or Spouse
Many couples in the midst of a divorce choose mediation because it is less contentious than a court hearing and you are able to work out your differences in a more non-confrontational environment. Unfortunately, if you do not allow the mediator to speak or do not listen to your spouse's concerns, your mediation session will be less successful.
Allow the mediator and your spouse to have their say. However, make sure that your concerns and demands are also vocalized so you can come to a decision that works well for you and your children.
Talking About Mediation on Social Media or With Friends and Family
Finally, one of the biggest mistakes you can make is discussing what occurred in mediation on social media or with loved ones. Mediation is intended to be a personal experience that will allow you and your spouse to work out your divorce in private. You do not need the opinions and concerns of others to interfere with the process.
Mediation is a powerful tool that can help you and your spouse complete your divorce in the quickest and most amicable way possible. Make sure to avoid these mistakes and if you have other questions, don't hesitate to contact your attorney.
For more information, reach out to a divorce lawyer such as North Metro Litigators.